Hey momma, have you noticed that this holiday season feels more full than any other year? Even though, technically, there’s a lot less going on? Less parties, holiday events & shows cancelled, seeing friends & family nearly impossible for a lot of us and let’s be real – it’s basically a total wash for a majority of the ways we once used to experience the holidays.
Have you felt yourself overcompensating for this “deficit”? Have you noticed how even though there’s less on your calendar, your plate feels more full than ever? You feel busier and more exhausted – on all levels? You’re trying to make this time special for everyone around you, to fill the gap of missing traditions and “holiday cheer”, all the while running yourself ragged? Feeling like a failure.
I see you. I’m navigating this right there with you.
And here’s a hard truth – if you keep going at this pace, you’re going to get to the actual holiday and be so drained & exhausted that your worst self shows up and ruins Christmas (hand raise, speaking from experience here).
Let me ask you: what “extra” are you doing right now? And is it *REALLY* necessary? If not, can you just STOP doing it? Or how can you get support? How will you and your kids look back on this time & remember it? Is the path you’re on now in line with your desires?
You’ve got a lot on your plate. But what I’m asking you is, does it ALL have to be there? Or is anything you’re “doing” just added busy to keep you distracted from the fact that this season is HARD and it’s even harder to sit with that?
Let’s start there. I want you to write down everything that SUCKS about this season, this year. Let it pour out of you. Maybe even scream or weep into a pillow. Allow yourself to feel the disappointment, the anger, the devastation. It’s real and it *needs* an outlet.
This is about being HONEST, not self-judgy, so that you can adjust expectations and source your magic; find the ease (simplicity).
Once you’ve done that, I want you to write down how you WANT to feel this season – both the holiday season and in this season of life. What THINGS // ACTIONS // RITUALS *actually* will create that feeling – for you & those that matter to you. THAT’S what you want to spend your time & energy on.
I’m not talking about MORE, I’m talking about less. The simple. The peeled back. Because those are the moments both we and our kids will remember. You know this. But you’ve been brainwashed to believe that more is better (it’s not) and that your magic comes from what you do (it doesn’t, it’s innate in WHO you are).
And that’s what this WHOLE year (2020) has been about. Shedding what we don’t need so that we can make space for what MATTERS.
This is your reminder that you’re doing an AMAZING JOB *and* the PSA that all you’re doing isn’t necessary. You can do hard things, but you don’t need to do all the things or BE all the things to everyone. Momma ain’t ACTUALLY got time or energy for that.
It’s also your permission slip to take a f*cking break, momma. What could you build if you let it all fall apart? How GOOD would it feel to let it all fall apart and then CHOOSE what you want to pick back up?
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Today, Monday, December 14 is a New Moon Solar Eclipse. New moons are a potent time for intention setting and manifestation. They are the “winter” of the lunar cycle (which happens every 29.5 days), a new beginning where you are supported in shedding what no longer serves you (that perhaps wasn’t working in the past moon cycle or that has come into our awareness) and in planting new seeds of what you desire to create and call into your life.
Solar eclipses take this power (release, intuition & manifestation) and amplify it (some astrologers say by 10 fold). This particular new moon is the last of 2020 and the perfect opportunity to seed what you desire for the upcoming year, along with releasing that which you want to let go of // shed.
It’s a perfect time to reflect:
- What did you accomplish this year?
- What went well?
- What was disappointing?
- What fell apart?
- What became clear?
- What journeys did you take (soul, physical, emotional, mental) – and what have you learned from them?
- What shadows of yourself were revealed to you or amplified this year? What are they here to teach you?
- What are you ready to release or manifest in order to come into closer alignment with your highest self?
- How do you want to show up differently than you have been?
- What lessons (sacred medicine) have I learned this year?
- What has been coming up for you this year in regards to your “foundations” – home, relationships, money, work, body, etc.?
In the last 24 hours, I have lost my shit, cried a lot and screamed. I’ve felt exhausted, totally “done”, frustrated, immense joy and deep, emotional pain. Anyone else? These big swings in moods and feelings are often labeled as “too emotional” or “bitchy” in this patriarchal society we live in. But the truth is, they are MEDICINE. They are here to shed a light on what’s keeping me // you stuck, what’s suffocating our light and holding us back from our power, purpose and joy.
Feelings are here to tell you your truth – to reveal where you are overextended, to highlight what’s not working and shed light on how your lifestyle, reactions and choices are either in or out of alignment with your deepest desires and needs.
I hope you’ll spend some time today, with me, holding sacred space for yourself to go inward and see what’s there for you. I promise the medicine – although not always easy to swallow or live, is there so that you can step closer towards your dreams and into the highest version of yourself (where you can make the biggest impact on the world and your community).
(If you can’t today, do no fret, this support and heightened intuition is available to you tonight and for the next few days – the power of the new moon builds a few days before and stays for a few days after).
In temple with my spiritual and life mentor, Sarah Jenks today, she dropped some wisdom that I’ll leave you with:
“When you see life as sacred and see the medicine that’s being given to you versus being or playing the victim, it’s like taking a surf board to ride the waves instead of letting it (life) crash down on you.”
What in life keeps crashing down on you? What is the potent MEDICINE in that wave? The waves are going to keep coming, that’s life. But the perspective you take, the nourishment and space you give yourself, your willingness to look at the hard things and let them transform you – that’s the surfboard. Grab it, momma. It’s time. It’s your time.
If you want to dive deeper into what this particular New Moon Solar Eclipse in Sagittarius brings (energy-wise and insight-wise), check out this blog post from my business coach & astrologer Lauren DeGolia and/or this blog from The Moon Deck.
Happy New Moon, happy shedding and intention setting; oh and enjoy that f*cking permission slip too. 🙂 I love you.