Goal setting is a hot topic around the New Year, to be sure. And it might not surprise you to know that I’m not a big fan of the way the health, fitness or nutrition industry approach goal setting or New Year’s “resolutions”.
Here’s why:
As a woman, you’ve been brainwashed to believe that the change you desire to FEEL happens ONLY *after* you’ve reached your goals – AKA once you’ve lost that extra 10 lbs., started working out regularly, are eating right, getting enough sleep, have balanced hormones and added in more self-care…
But that’s patriarch bullsh*t designed to keep you stuck, feeling “never enough” (no matter how you look, what amount of money you make or the children // partner // home you’re blessed with) and distracted by the never-ending cycle of seeking that “perfect” body or life.
But did you know that especially when it comes to goals concerning your body, as a woman, setting linear goals just doesn’t work long-term. Why? Because physiologically, your hormones are cyclical over the course of a month and NOT the same every day (like men)!
And your hormones literally affect E.V.E.R.Y. system of your body – including energy, brain function and what we perceive as “motivation” or “progress”. So when your goals aren’t coming along as intended, the tendency is to believe there’s something wrong with YOU.
When the truth is, the problem lies in HOW you’re setting goals
(aka the paradigm // expectations you’re operating from).
FACT: as a woman, you have two distinct hormone phases of your cycle – low & high. Your low hormone phase is when you may feel momentum & energy building towards a linear goal, but come your high hormone phase, your body PHYSICALLY and MENTALLY requires a shift in how you exercise, work, eat, sleep, mother & live. Meaning: you can *still* work towards your goals, but the WAY in which you do it must adjust to your hormones in order for your motivation, progress & energy to not wane.
This shift also requires goals that are connected to something more MEANINGFUL than aesthetics or materials. You can desire to shift these areas of your life 100%, but if there’s no deeper meaning attached, you’ll soon lose “motivation” because half of your hormone cycle calls you into discernment of that which matters most and is in line with your true desires.
So instead of setting a goal like “I want to lose 10 lbs.”, TRY THIS: imagine what being 10 lbs. lighter FEELS like.
- What do you imagine you’d be doing?
- How would you adorn yourself?
- What self-image // beliefs would shift or be different?
That FEELING is your real goal. And once you are clear on the feeling, you can start taking small actions to feel that way RIGHT NOW, not after you’ve lost the weight.
No strings or New Year, New You // Whole30 // 30 Day Workout Challenge attached. 👊🏻
And that’s the WHOLE point, isn’t it? To FEEL amazing – and specifically, how you deeply desire, in all areas of your life
Focusing on the feeling also allows for flexibility and redirection when something you’re currently doing isn’t working. It makes space for grace and truly tuning into your cyclical body’s changing needs.
Want to learn more about goal setting for your female physiology so you can begin to feel how you desire RIGHT. NOW?
I’m hosting a free online workshop TOMORROW, Monday, 1.11 at 11am PST, that will walk you through this process, step-by-step {join here!}.
In this workshop, you’ll learn a new way of goal setting that is designed
to work WITH the needs & hormones of your female body, not against them.
And the best part, it’s FUN, simple and it WORKS –
no matter what life or hormone season you’re in.
CLICK HERE TO JOIN
(details on how to join via Zoom will be emailed to you).
OH! And one more thing – there’s a NEW MOON on Tuesday that perfectly supports this revolutionary way of setting goals. WHY? New moons signify new beginnings. They’re the perfect time to set intentions and plant seeds of desire for the upcoming cycle.
So you’ll be energetically supported in gaining clarity AND taking action. When you sign up, you’ll also receive a FREE handout on Creating The Life You Desire which breaks down this process step-by-step for future use. If you’re IN (for the LIVE or recorded workshop), click HERE.